Moving On

May 09, 2017

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”



Change is constant. May it be in our personal life, love life, career and the likes. Change is not always for the better, sometimes change is caused by something bad. 


People tend to cling to something and be attached - that's why we always have a hard time to move forward or what we commonly say, "move on."

Pain is inevitable. Physically and emotionally. At first, you may be in the state of shock or what they usually say in denial. It is a struggle to absorb everything that's happening to your life. To understand why it happened, why it is happening to you. Why you? What did I do to deserve this?

You are denying the reality of the situation. Life is unpredictable. Do not compare your life to others, and you'll find yourself digging downwards than actually moving forward and healing. These things happen to us to transform us to someone better and stronger - believe me. It may seem a blur while you're at it - but please keep this in mind.

Hurt. Pain - this come as a big impact in our lives to transform us. We need to truly accept whatever comes our way and embrace it rather than fight it or reject it.

We have different ways to slowly or gradually go over this phase. Some go with anger and revenge as the fuel to move on. Some go with venting out with friends, drinks and parties. Some go with reading books, listening to music or traveling. Rekindling long lost hobbies or passion. Whatever it is that you know may divert you with the hurt - go for it.

Again, do not compare yourself to others. Go with your own pace. May it be a week, a month, a year. Do not force yourself to forgive and forget. You'll know it when you do not feel the anger anymore.

While you're at it - you will realize that you are starting to accept things. But you know what, being miserable or happy is your butterflying choice. Acceptance is a choice - no matter how hard it is.

A lot of things are out of our hands. We cannot control any or all aspects in our lives. I have read something online advising to EMBRACE YOURSELF.

"Life is constantly reminding us about what we don't have. But what about all the we do have? What makes you special? Find the things that you do love about yourself. They're enough."

When unpredictable and bad things come our path, instead of complaining and over-thinking (yes, I know this is very hard to resist - but you will learn how to in the long run)  things, we need to choose to live with it even if we wish and pray that things would and could have been different. We cannot change our reality but we can definitely turn things around by accepting what was given to us.

"Nobody gets everything they want. There will always be something. Find a way to be happy with what you still have and already have."

If you fail to see this once - try harder. Get out of the box. Don't just look at closed doors in front of you but try to look around for open windows.

I hope I am still making a point here. I am still going through this process (in some aspects of my life) if in case you are wondering. Some I got to live with right now, some I am still trying to understand and comprehend. Some I am blaming myself or others.

But never did I forgot that I can move on. I will move on.

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2 comments

  1. Yessssssss!! Advanced Happy mother's day! I miss youuu! ♥♥

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    1. Happy Mother's Day din Mama EA! Haha. Gusto ko yung comment ako blog mo, then comment ka din sa blog ko. Hahaha! I-share mo sakin yang group mo ng momma bloggers. :)

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